First of all, thank you for reaching out to us and cheers to you for recognizing this ingrained negative behavior, and looking for ways to nip it in the bud.
We want you to start your journey of healing by remembering to be kind to yourself and know that real change happens slowly. Sometimes, very slowly … like, sloth-level slowly. So, don’t be too hard on yourself.
Your mind is conditioned to go to negative town. So to help break the cycle, the next time you have that negative thought or dive into your dark imagination, practice switching it up by posing a question instead of stating a fear. Ask yourself:
- Am I being realistic or are there other ways this can turn out?
- If this happened to my loved one what advice would I give to them?
- What if this all works out perfectly, what would that look like?
When you practice the art of asking a question you are opening yourself up to the myriad possibilities life offers each of us, every day. The possibilities that good will emerge, joy will find you, opportunities will reveal themselves. Asking open-ended questions like this can bring you HOPE, and we think that is the very best antidote to despair.
Good luck and much love,
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